Just the facts, Ma’am…just the facts!

I wanted to take a few minutes to address some myths about my emotional state.

If you read any blog entry from the past 6 months and come away with the conclusion that I am depressed or poor in spirit, a catastrophic misinterpretation has occurred! If you see me and judge my countenance to be depressed, a catastrophic misinterpretation has occurred. If you see the smile on my face or even a tear in my eye and conclude that I am poor, pitiful, or in need of sympathy, a catastrophic misinterpretation has occurred.

These are simply the facts!

On the contrary, I am delighted to be alive, honored to be in love, and totally fulfilled to be the mother of 4 children: three of which live inside my heart and one that grows inside of my womb. While my past pregnancies have had many turbulent moments, please know that the good, far surpass the bad. Please don’t define be by my past pain..all of that has helped to empower me into who I am today.
Phrases like “ Poor Tanika” do not apply to me. I have had unfortunate events but I have recovered and continue to recover.

Do I have thoughts that make me sad? ABSOLUTELY!

Do I think of our daughters and miss them? Yes, TERRIBLY!

Do I think of our daughters and smile because of the joy they brought to our lives? ABSOLUTELY!

Do I cry?? YES!!! Happy & Sad tears…so, don’t judge then…ya never know!

Every day I experience a love that heals. I choose to love and be loved. I make the conscious decision to LIVE!

These are simply the facts!

While I walk proudly, head held upright, and can look at others face to face, I am reminded that it may not “feel” right for others to look at me. Its easier to lower heads and stare at my growing stomach. Doing so is fine, if you must but you short change yourself because you missed the smile on my face & the pride in my heart.


So, the facts are :

I am well ( in heart, mind, and spirit)


I am blessed.


I am thankful ( for the past, present, & future)


I am excited.


I am inspired.


I am healed ( and continue to experience healing)


I am loved.


I am greater than any pain I have experienced!


I am well!